Transcript
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[Three gavel bangs.]
jesse thorn
Welcome to the Judge John Hodgman Podcast. I’m Bailiff Jesse Thorn. This week: "The Skeleton Brief." Kris files suit against his fiancée, Bonnie. Bonnie loves to decorate the home for the fall season. Kris thinks she starts decorating too early in the year. Bonnie says she wants to enjoy her favorite time of year as much as possible. Who's right? Who's wrong? Only one can decide. Please rise as Judge John Hodgman enters the courtroom and presents an obscure cultural reference.
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[During above: Door opens, footsteps, chairs scrape against the floor.] [Door closes.]
john hodgman
My mission in life is to make everybody as uneasy as possible. I think we should all be as uneasy as possible, because that's what the world is like. Bailiff Jesse Thorn, please swear them in.
jesse
Kris, Bonnie, please rise and raise your right hands.
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[Chairs scrape.]
jesse
Do you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help you God or whatever?
kris
I do.
bonnie
I do.
jesse
Do you swear to abide by Judge John Hodgman's ruling, despite the fact that he himself is a spooky skeleton?
kris
[Laughing] I do.
bonnie
I do.
jesse
Judge Hodgman, you may proceed.
john
Thank you for revealing my darkest secret. [Scattered quiet laughter.] The actor that I hired to go on our Live Justice tour this November is not the real John Hodgman. I'm actually a plastic spooky skeleton. [More laughter.] With red light-up eyes. I need someone to change the little disk battery in the back of my head, 'cause my eyes aren't lighting up properly anymore.
jesse
I picture them as the kind of red light-up eyes that kind of go "BZZT! BZZT!" when they turn on. [Laughs.]
john
Well, you can picture them perfectly! Because you've seen me in my true form.
jesse
Yeah!
john
Because we are old friends.
jesse
[Laughing] Oh, yeah, of course! Since our days in the Skull and Bones society.
john
No, I was not a member of Skull and Bones at Yale University, the four-year accredited institution in southern Connecticut that I got my Bachelor of Arts degree from.
jesse
Bad news, John! [Laughing] I was a member of Skull and Bones at UC Santa Cruz in Santa Cruz, California!
john
[Stifling laughter] One of our franchises.
jesse
It wasn't so much a secret society as a, you know, [laughing] group of kinda chill pals who would go out in the meadow and eat mushrooms.
john
[Laughs.] It's kind of like the TEDx of Yale secret societies. [Jesse laughs.] No, I was not in Skull and Bones, buuut I did gain entry into Book and Snake, a different secret society at Yale. And you can read all about it in Medallion Status, the new book by me, John Hodgman, available October 15th, Bit.ly/MEDALLIONSTATUS. [Rapidly] That's B-I-T dot L-Y slash MEDALLIONSTATUS, all one word, all capital letters. Always be plugging. I'm sorry about that, Kris and Bonnie, you had to stand throughout that entire plug! Please be seated.
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[Chairs scraping.]
john
Now, for an immediate summary judgment in one of yours' favors, can either of you name the piece of culture that I referenced when I entered the courtroom? This is a direct quote from a person, and only the name of the person is necessary. I don't think that you would be able to guess the other source. You know, the—the contextual source. The person's name is fine. Kris, you bring the case. Why don't we start with you?
kris
I had a couple topical references to use today that I had in my back pocket, and that quote was definitely not from either of those.
john
Yeah, they probably were better than mine! [Laughing] What did you have in mind?
kris
The one that I was gonna use that was kind of the curveball that I would use—Halloween is Grinch Night. So I'm just gonna go with that, even though I'm certain it's not correct.
john
What is that from?
kris
Halloween is Grinch Night is a lesser known sequel to How the Grinch Stole Christmas.
john
Oh, it's a television special! And a prequel to How the Grinch Stole Christmas! It won the 1978 Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Children's Program. It premiered October 29, 1977. It was never a Dr. Seuss book, it was just a cartoon. Interesting! I'd never heard about that! That is an obscure cultural reference... that is probably not correct, but I appreciate it anyway. [Kris and Bonnie laugh.] Thank you very much. But I can't say that it's wrong yet, 'cause I haven't heard Bonnie's guess yet. What is your guess, Bonnie?
bonnie
I definitely don't have anything definitive, but I get kind of... Carl Jung vibes from that quote? That's my guess.
john
Hmm! Philosophical! What were you thinking—you're the one who's got all this Halloween junk all over the house. What would be your favorite thing to quote that would have something to do with your situation?
bonnie
Oh!
john
Nightmare Before Christmas, right?
bonnie
Probably not. [Laughs.]
john
Jesse Thorn, we found the person who doesn't love A Nightmare Before Christmas.
bonnie
I love it, but it's probably not my most beloved.
john
What's your most beloved?
bonnie
I'd probably have to go with the ever classic Hocus Pocus.
john
Hocus Pocus! I do know what that is, but I forget. Tell me.
bonnie
Story of kind of your three cantankerous witches.
john
Oh, this is the Kathy Najimy and Sarah Jessica Parker and Bette Midler movie.
bonnie
Yes, exactly.
jesse
Otherwise known as Lady Millennial Space Jam. [Everyone laughs.]
john
I actually, uh—I've never seen that movie. But that's your favorite Halloween movie.
bonnie
Yeah, I would say so.
john
I'm glad I didn't go to it for a quote. [Bonnie laughs.] 'Cause you might have gotten it right. But instead, you got it wrong. ALL guesses are wrong. I was quoting the author and illustrator Edward Gorey. Edward Gorey is one of my very favorite author and illustrators, with a particularly morbid, I dare say Halloween-y, imagination. Most famous, probably, for The Gashlycrumb Tinies, [stifling laughter] which is his darkly humorous book of children's rhymes regarding children who, uh, pass away in various bad fates. "A is for Amy, who fell down the stairs. B is for Basil, assaulted by bears. C is for Clara, who wasted away. D is for Desmond, thrown out of a sleigh."
john
Oh... I love it. All with really dark illustrations. He also did, obviously, the opening credits for Mystery on PBS, and the, uh—famous for his dark, carefully drawn, crosshatched, tiny little detailed spooky little scenes. And I thought of him because this is a story about spooky decorations, among other things. And the evidence that you submitted, which was voluminous and beautiful and we will talk more about it in a moment—there's a little picture of ghosts telling ghost stories to another ghost that looked like an Edward Gorey illustration. And I thought, "If this is what Bonnie has in her house, then I'm 100% for it. There is no problem here. I don't know what Kris is complaining about." But then... [Bonnie laughs.]
john
I saw the rest of the evidence. We'll talk more about that later. [Kris laughs.] [Stifling laughter] So we'll hear the case. Kris, talk about what's in your house! Aside from this cute, Edward Gorey-ish illustration of ghosts telling ghost stories to each other.
kris
So, as of now, near the end of September, there is a lot of Halloween everywhere, and you can see that in the evidence. There's pumpkins everywhere, there's ghosts everywhere, there's skeletons everywhere. While I don't typically have a problem with the decorations themselves, as Jesse mentioned for the case, I have a problem with when they actually go up.
john
So already I'm taken by surprise, Kris, because when you sent in the photos of all the Halloween decorations in your house, I had presumed this was from last year. But you're telling me that this stuff is up now.
kris
They are up right now. I could go home right now and take the same pictures.
john
[Laughs.] That would be an interesting art project. [Kris laughs.] But it would achieve nothing. It would be cool if you went back and took the same pictures and there were ghosts in the background of all of them, or if everything had been moved slightly while you were away. That's not going to happen, because A, I believe in science, and B, it's not yet the haunting season, Bonnie! It's September 24th as we record. This is the very first day of fall; it was summer yesterday! What are you doing putting up all this Halloween stuff so early?!
bonnie
Well, I guess I should preface this by saying I truly and thoroughly hate summer. [Laughs.] So part of the reason why some of the decorations go up as early as they do is because it's kind of a coping mechanism for me.
john
How early did these guys go up?
bonnie
I decorate for Halloween on September 1st. There are decorations that could be deemed Autumn decorations, I guess, that go up before that, but it's not like the house explodes with seasonal decorations. There's kind of just a sprinkling of things that I don't consider to be Halloween that Kris does.
john
Okay, so aside from the Halloween decorations, there are sort of generic Autumn decorations. What are those, and when do those come into your life?
kris
There are pumpkin-themed decorations going up in mid-July in this household.
john
Whoa! Okay! Bonnie, you don't dispute that, do you?
bonnie
I don't dispute that there were two two-and-a-half-inch pumpkins with our initials on them, that are not even orange, that went up in July. [Laughs.] [Someone started laughing quietly as soon as Bonnie insisted "two."]
john
[Stifling laughter] So when you said pumpkin-themed decorations, Kris, you meant pumpkins.
kris
There is also a pumpkin candy bowl out year-round, that I have allowed just because we were a little bit too lazy to put it away after Halloween.
bonnie
We have no other candy bowl. [Jesse laughs.] So I contest that it is the only one that we can use in the meantime.
john
How old are you people?!
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Kris: We're both twenty-s— Bonnie: 27. [Laughs.]
john
Okay. So look, you're a generation behind me. Is this something that 27-year-olds are doing now, candy bowls, like their grandmas?! Are you putting—are you putting out Werther's Originals in a crystal cut bowl?! Is that a thing that 27-year-olds normally do?
bonnie
There's always candy in the house. I would say Kris eats it more than I do, but I like to have the little candy bowl on the table. That is kind of a nostalgic grandmother thing for me. I will admit that.
john
So in mid-July, basically you're rocking two small gourds with your initials on them and [stifles laughter] last Halloween's candy bowl full of stale candy corn.
bonnie
The bowl does get replenished.
john
You just leave out the pumpkin candy bowl all the time.
bonnie
Yeah, it's like a—a small—I'd say it's like a six-inch bowl that has a lid, that sits on the coffee table.
john
It's a never-ending flame. It is a constant reminder that Halloween is coming.
bonnie
Exactly.
kris
Correct.
john
Bonnie, where do you live?
bonnie
We live in Pennsylvania, in the suburbs of Philadelphia.
john
So you experience seasons, right?
bonnie
Yes, very much so.
john
Right. You're coming from an actual summer, going into an actual fall.
bonnie
Correct.
john
Why do you hate summer so much, and why do you like fall so much?
bonnie
I don't do well in heat. I have very pale complexion, so the sun is harmful to me. [Laughs.]
john
Mm-hm.
bonnie
As to why I love Autumn, and by extension Halloween so much, I just find it to be a supremely cozy time? It's kind of that dark, warm, and quiet moment right before everything goes to sleep for winter. And that's kinda when I feel most comfortable, and most at home.
john
It's the time that makes you think of what it must be like—that cozy moment just before you close your eyes and die. [Everyone laughs.]
bonnie
Yeah! Kind of!
jesse
For our listeners who aren't right now looking at @judgejohnhodgman on Instagram and seeing this evidence—I think "cozy" is a very apt description. These are not spooky Halloween decorating elements. These are not retro Halloween decorating elements, or edgy Halloween decorating elements.
john
Yeah, it's not scary.
jesse
If Mervyn's Home Goods had a goth section, this is where these adorable throw pillows— [John and Bonnie laugh] —would be sold. [Laughs.]
john
Well, let's go to the evidence. As always, all these images will be shared on the Judge John Hodgman page at MaximumFun.org, or you can go follow us on Instagram at @judgejohnhodgman, all one word. And here you will find an array of charming photographs from the home—is this your home right now, Bonnie? Or one that you share with Kris?
kris
We share. Yeah. We moved in, uh, to this house back in December of last year.
jesse
Just in time for Memorial Day decorations to go up! [John and Kris laugh.]
john
We have an array here of antique medicinal bottles, blue, green, and purple. They're lovely bottles. The caption here is "Spooky art up year-round," and I don't think these bottles are particularly spooky; I just think they're handsome; I like 'em.
jesse
I think the second picture is the spooky art.
john
Yeah. No, there's the spooky art. This is the wonderful Edward Gorey-esque line illustration of a ghost telling a ghost story in a graveyard. I think that's adorable, I like that very much. And then there's also a couple of shelves of taxidermed butterflies and crystals, and a skull of some kind. This is some kind of altar? And I think I can see—either I see your reflection in the mirror on this altar, taking the photo, Bonnie— [Bonnie laughs quietly] —or it's a g-g-g-g-ghost! [Kris and Jesse laugh.]
john
But this is a shrine of crystals and power elements and skulls and a little fondue pot. Tell me about this shrine, Bonnie.
bonnie
Yeah. I wouldn't necessarily call it an altar, but it's definitely kind of where I've housed my collection of natural history items.
john
It's got two palantírs on either end of it. It's got two—two orbs! [Scattered quiet laughter.] One on the left, and one on the right. If that's not an altar, I don't know what an altar is. But go on. This is just your personal collection of things.
jesse
If it's not an altar, why is there a fondue pot in it?! [John laughs.]
kris
I believe you're speaking about her cauldron.
jesse
Oh, there you go. Fair enough. [Kris laughs.]
john
Alright. Bonnie, we have talked over you enough. But I do think you got some 'splainin' to do with regard to these two shelves in your home. Tell me the significance of these two shelves and some of the items on there.
bonnie
I like to collect rocks and minerals and crystals, mostly because it stems from my interest in geology, and I think they're very beautiful things and it fascinates me that it is the Earth's creation that, you know, has been kind of manipulated in such a way that we can collect these things in our homes.
john
Let me be clear, Bonnie. To me, these two shelves—they're dope. I like the way this looks. You don't need to be on the defensive about this. I'm with you. Tell me about the skull. The animal skull.
bonnie
Same type of thing. I kind of like to collect things from nature, [stifling laughter] so I fully admit that I have skulls throughout the house, on the wall. However, Kris has claimed that he actually likes those, so I don't think those are a matter of contention; but I do absolutely agree that they could be construed as spooky. But I would also argue that that's kind of my overall general aesthetic. So that's why the lines kind of blur sometimes between what is a Halloween decoration and what is just a Bonnie decoration. [Laughs.]
john
Well, that's interesting. I'm not sure the lines are so very blurry, because when we scroll down to some of the other decorations here, this is just a kind of Bonnie-style, central Pennsylvania, von Pier memento shelf. I like it. And you know, Kris, you like these skulls, too. Who's the man pictured in this photograph on the righthand side of the shelf?
bonnie
That is an older picture of my father.
john
Oh, I see. You were putting a curse on him? [Everyone laughs.]
bonnie
No, I—I actually—I have both my parents represented on that shelf. There's a smaller picture of my mother, just as kind of—I don't know, an honor to them.
john
That's lovely. And the cauldron?
bonnie
So while it looks like a cauldron, it's actually not. It's an old kerosene pot. [John responds affirmatively and makes a sound of acknowledgement as Bonnie continues.] So you'll see there's, like, kind of a wand object coming out of it? That has like, a bulbous end to it on the inside that would collect this kerosene gel, and it would be used as a smudge pot to actually, like, light things.
john
Oh! Okay.
bonnie
But I have a lot of kind of odd industrial antiques like that, 'cause I think their history is really fascinating, so that's also why the bottle collection is pictured. [Stifling laughter] But it's one of the items that Kris tends to poke at me for pretty often. [Kris laughs.]
jesse
Bonnie, would you characterize yourself as gothic in any way?
bonnie
Not really. I definitely have a dark aesthetic, but I wouldn't call it gothic.
jesse
Can we make "cozy goth" a thing?
bonnie
Absolutely.
kris
I would definitely qualify you as a cozy goth.
john
Cozy goth!
bonnie
Yeah. [Laughs.]
john
Jesse Thorn, I think you just created a whole new lifestyle.
jesse
Move over, summer goth! Here comes cozy goth! [Kris laughs.]
bonnie
You should trademark that. [Laughs.]
john
I shouldn't say you "created" a lifestyle, 'cause Bonnie's already living the lifestyle. I think the three of you and me listening have identified a bold new aesthetic school of interior decorating.
jesse
I'm working right now on a deepfake of Glenn Danzig holding a cup of herbal tea with both hands and inhaling deeply. [Everyone laughs.]
john
So Kris, you're down with that cozy goth lifestyle. You don't mind these shelves, right? You kinda like it, right?
kris
Yeah, it does look good. Sometimes she can get a bit overboard on it. Sometimes the shelves get pretty packed, but overall I do like the aesthetic, generally.
john
But then Bonnie says the lines blur between her cozy goth lifestyle and the Halloween decorations, and I will say the lines are not blurred in the least. It is a brightly drawn line. 'Cause all of a sudden now we're looking at a shower curtain that just has black cats and pumpkins on it, with a pumpkin bath mat, which I hope to... the great void that is not there year-round, Bonnie. [Bonnie laughs quietly during the above.] You don't have that pumpkin bath mat there year-round, do you?
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Bonnie: No, no. John: Alright. Bonnie: I'm—I'm not a lunatic. [She and Kris laugh.]
john
And then as I scroll through more, I mean, we're talking about very—I dare say not cozy goth—I hope you'll accept this as just my observation, but it's very kitschy goth. I mean, not even goth. It's—it's kitschy Halloween-y, like Christmas store–level, Halloween-style decorations. So we have like, ghost fairy lights. There's a little statuette of a man with a jack-o'-lantern head. Kind of cutesy goth, that I think is a very different aesthetic from the cozy goth, the Bonnie goth, that I see represented in your shrine.
jesse
The coffee area appears to have a sign that says, "A cup a day keeps the ghosts away." [John or Kris laughs quietly.]
bonnie
That's correct. [She and Kris laugh.]
john
That feels like a different expression of your personality, Bonnie. That you have a kind of a—I don't know, an insouciant 55-year-old mom approach to decorating for Halloween. [Scattered laughter from the other three during the above.]
bonnie
Yeah, I would say that my Halloween style is definitely somewhere at the intersection of spooky and cute. Any kind of haunting going on in our house is a friendly one. [Laughs.] [Jesse laughs.]
john
[Stifling laughter] Sure. And speaking of cute, there is a cat here wearing a jack-o'-lantern vest, that I gotta show to my bailiff, Jesse Thorn. [Jesse, Kris, and Bonnie laugh.]
jesse
[Coming down from laughter] The cat's like, "Come on! A jack-o'-lantern vest?!" [Everyone else laughs again.]
john
What is the name of this cat who you put into this jack-o'-lantern vest?
bonnie
His name is Appa.
john
How do you spell that?
bonnie
A-P-P-A.
john
A-P-P-A. That's a cool name. Does it mean something that I don't know?
bonnie
Appa represents 50% of our cats, so they—they're a duo, and their names are Appa and Momo, which are characters from a hit cartoon series that Kris and I both enjoy, um, called Avatar: The Last Airbender.
john
Oookay! There it is. Everyone who was just yelling "The Last Airbender!" into their, uh, Internet radios can now be quiet. I finally got to the bottom of it. [Bonnie laughs.]
jesse
Let's take a quick recess. We'll be back in just a moment on the Judge John Hodgman podcast.
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jesse
We're taking a quick break from Judge John Hodgman's court proceedings to talk about Judge John Hodgman's proceedings across this great nation of ours. And overseas! [Stifling laughter] If the sea is the border between the United States and Canada. [Both laugh.]
john
[Stifling laughter] That's right, the—the great sea of Niagara Falls. Yeah. You all know by now that Jesse Thorn and I are going on tour in November, bringing Live Justice to the lawless lands of Toronto; Durham; Atlanta; Washington, DC. And Portland, Maine! But what you might not know is... we need cases! That's right! We can't have a Live Justice show without some disputes to settle! And that dispute could be yours. If you live in any one of these places, or are planning to travel to them to see this show, think about someone you have a bone to pick with. Think about someone who you might have an argument with that you've long wanted to settle on stage, with me and my bailiff, Jesse Thorn. If you have a dispute for one of these live dates, please write in to hodgman@maximumfun.org, or MaximumFun.org/jjho for the form.
john
Make sure that you say, "This is for Toronto." "This is for Durham." "This is for Atlanta." "This is for Washington, DC." "This is for Portland, Maine." And if we hear your case on stage, guess what? You get in free! And I say hello to you. And Jesse Thorn says hello to you, too. So please consider having a fight with someone. You may also know that I'm going out solo, in support of my new book Medallion Status, to a number of great cities all across this land. Los Angeles, San Fransisco, Boston, New York, St. Paul, Chicago.
john
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john
I'm not gonna punish you if you pre-order it! If you come to tour, and you see me on tour and you get another copy, then I'm gonna give you a special Double Corgi Status pin! As a thank you from me to you. And even if you just come to tour and buy a copy, you'll get a Famous Corgi Pin. And even if you're out there and you just get a copy, you'll know I think very, very fondly of you, and I'm grateful for your support. Bit.ly/MEDALLIONSTATUS. It's coming out next week! Okay. Bailiff Jesse, shall we get back to the case?
jesse
Yeah! Let's do it.
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john
The most pertinent evidence, though, is this A-B comparison between your living room year-round vs. your living room how it is now decorated, for Halloween, as of September the 1st. You have a nice sectional sofa. A nice, cozy rug. Orange paint on the walls, which may or may not be Halloween-themed, but it's subtle.
kris
That's how the house came.
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John: Alright, that's— Bonnie: Yeah, total coincidence. [Laughs.] John: Yeah. Kris: Yeah.
john
[Laughing] Right.
kris
So as much as I'd like to put that on her, I cannot. That's—that's how the house came.
john
Yeah. That's just a happy accident where Bonnie walked in and said, "I like these walls. We're taking the place."
bonnie
Basically. [Laughs.]
john
There are two skulls hanging. I don't know what animals these are skulls from, but they are non-human skulls, right, Bonnie?
bonnie
Correct. One is a cow and one is a goat.
john
And they are definitely from the cozy goth collection. [Bonnie and Kris or Jesse laugh quietly.] Because they're non-intrusive. No one's gonna walk into this room and not automatically know that Bonnie, if not Kris, is living that cozy goth life. It's tasteful, I think. I like it. Now flip over to Halloween time: holy moly! [Kris laughs.] You have a lot of Halloween throw pillows!
bonnie
That's—that's true. [Laughs.]
kris
It's a lot.
john
One, two, three, four—at least four ghost or skeleton-y decorated throw pillows for your sectional sofa, plus one blankie that is full of ghosts and one blankie that is full of jack-o'-lanterns. And it's all very cutesy. And we go from this sort of like, restrained, sort of tasteful, Edward Gorey-ish, uh, slight spookiness to like, "Oh, uh, Jack Skellington came in here and threw up." [Kris laughs.] Is this what you object to, Kris?
kris
I think—I think it's a little bit much, so... not even early in the fall season, before the fall season even hits. It's a—it's a bit much.
john
When Bonnie brought out that first pumpkin this year, how did it make you feel?
kris
It made me feel like we were skipping over the entire summer. Skipping the rest of the warm and going straight to the dead trees and the cold.
john
Do you enjoy summer, Kris?
kris
I enjoy summer. I'm also fair-skinned. I obviously don't like being in the sun very long.
john
Join the ranks of the vast majority of Judge John Hodgman listeners. [Kris and Bonnie laugh.]
kris
I burn easily, but I do like the heat. I like going to the beach. We don't do it too often because we have trouble finding the time, but, um, my—I would still say my favorite season is the winter.
john
You have trouble finding the time and the beach. Where do you go to the beach in Pennsylvania?
kris
Jersey Shore. It's only a couple hours away from us.
john
Yeahhh. Where do you go on the Jersey Shore, Kris?
bonnie
Ventnor.
john
I'm an Ocean City, New Jersey guy.
kris & bonnie
Okay.
bonnie
I can respect that.
kris
Mm-hm.
john
Ocean City respects Ventnor, too. [Bonnie laughs.] The nice thing for pale people is you sit under the boardwalk.
kris
Of course.
john
It's the greatest.
kris
While I do like summer, I would still say my favorite season is the winter, because I do definitely prefer the cold to the warm.
bonnie
The literal antithesis of summer. [Laughs.]
kris
Well, it's my favorite. I still—I still like the seasons! I don't like skipping over them.
john
Do you feel anxious when Bonnie starts trying to wish time away to get to the only period of the year when she feels comfortable?
kris
I would say a bit, yeah. I've always liked the seasons, so just skipping over them, it just kinda—it stinks. Another thing that goes along with that, I have a birthday that falls around a holiday. Around Thanksgiving, specifically, and people like to put Christmas decorations up way too early, and I feel like when they start putting up Christmas decorations before Thanksgiving, I feel like everyone's trying to skip my birthday. [Jesse laughs.]
john
Alright. [Laughs.] [Kris laughs.] No one's trying to skip your birthday. [Laughs.]
kris
Thank you. [Bonnie and Jesse laugh.]
john
That's just a cultural pressure to get people to start spending money as quickly as possible, because brick and mortar retail is dying. [Kris laughs.] It's not personal. They're just trying to get—just trying to get the pressure on. Bonnie, people really do take issue with stores, for example, start putting up Christmas decorations or other holiday decorations at the beginning of November, or Halloween decorations at the beginning of September—tend to feel this way as well. 'Cause I'm older than you, and I feel like time is already slipping through my fingers. Personally, it makes me anxious to go into the Walgreens or the CVS or whatever and see the Halloween candy on August 15th. 'Cause like, "[Noise of despair], don't take my time away!" [Bonnie and Kris or Jesse laugh quietly.]
bonnie
That's fair.
john
Do you think that Kris is feeling some of that, or is that just me projecting onto him?
bonnie
I understand his feelings about it, but the issue I take with it is that he doesn't speak up sooner in the decorating process. So more often than not, he'll be with me if I'm at, like, a home goods store, for instance. And I'll ask him his opinion on something, and I'll be lucky to get as much as a shrug. So he literally helped me put these pumpkins onto a shelf. And then [laughs] took it upon himself to complain. So I would never wanna put something up that he genuinely disliked or felt uncomfortable with, but it's after it has started to bring me happiness that he's all the sudden taken a sour turn. [Laughs.]
john
He's the kind of guy who saves his feelings and opinions for expressing on podcasts only. [Kris laughs.]
bonnie
So it would seem.
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Bonnie: I had no idea about this hurt about his birthday. John: Oh no! How does— [Bonnie and Kris laugh, John stifles laughter.]
john
And you could really feel it in his voice!
bonnie
Yeah, it seems like a sore subject. [Laughs.]
john
I mean, you guys just moved in together. Prior to this, Bonnie, were you rocking Halloween in the middle of July happily on your own, and did you know that this would be an issue when you decided to cohabitate? Did you have any conversations about how to compromise on this before you moved in together?
bonnie
We did actually live together prior to moving into this house. We've lived together for I'd say probably a little over two years.
kris
Two and a half, yeah.
bonnie
And I mean, in our previous house, it was similarly spooky. Um, he knew I was spooky [laughs] getting into the relationship. This is not something that comes as a surprise to anyone who knows me. But I will admit that I probably had a bit more excitement and maybe over-eagerness in my decorating schedule this year, since it is our first owned home. Um—
john
Yeah!
bonnie
So that might have lent to the timing, to a degree.
john
It's a brand new house! You're excited. You wanna put your cat in a pumpkin vest and get gourds all over the place as quickly as possible.
bonnie
That's absolutely right. [She and Kris laugh.]
john
So Kris, one thing that I think we need to get to the bottom of here before I can make my verdict, is: Is it the timing of the decorating that is the primary issue for you? Or the stuff itself, once it comes out of the closet?
kris
I like the decorations, once they're up. They do look nice. But I do think it's the timing. And to combat her, um—her statement on why I am indifferent, I support her in her decorating desires. Typically it's only onesie-twosies, like, "Do you like this? Can we put this up?" And we might put up one or two things at a time, and then one day I'll sit down on the couch, look around, and I'm surrounded by all these different decorations for next season, and I'm caught wondering, "How did this happen?"
john
[Laughs.] It's a slow, spooky creep, is what you're saying.
kris
Exactly. It's a very spooky creep.
john
But you do have to be responsible for offering your opinions if you have them. And now you know. Unless you speak up and say whether you really like something or not, you're soon gonna be surrounded by kitschy pumpkins. And they're going to kill you in your sleep. [Bonnie and Kris laugh.] Just a little lesson.
kris
Of course.
john
If I were to rule in your favor, Kris, what would you have me rule?
kris
I would say we shouldn't start decorating for Halloween until, like, October 1st, and then—
bonnie
[Gasps.]
kris
[Laughs.]
john
You just heard an audible gasp. That wasn't a spooky ghost, that was the love of your life, gasping.
kris
[Laughing] It sure was.
john
October 1st for Halloween.
kris
So yeah, Halloween October 1st, and then fall... Oh, I don't know, probably like, Labor Day?
john
When does this stuff get put away? Does it get put away in a timely manner after October 31st, or does it linger? Is that an issue?
bonnie
I've committed to November 1st for taking down all the Halloween. But I would argue that fall is reasonable to keep up in November.
john
What is fall? 'Cause all I'm seeing is this Halloween stuff in my evidence. I'm not seeing more of the generic fall stuff that you're talking about.
bonnie
Yeah, small pumpkins. I have like, a pumpkin wreath that goes out front. Things like that.
jesse
Cornucopia costume for the cat.
john
[Delighted] Cornucopia costume for the cat! [Bonnie and Jesse or Kris laugh.] Jesse Thorn, you need to invent that right away. That would be great.
bonnie
Catucopia.
john
That's right. [Bonnie laughs quietly.] [Stifling laughter] To subject an otherwise proud cat to being—have its little head come out of a horn o' plenty. [Jesse, Bonnie, and Kris laugh.] That would be so cute!
bonnie
So delightful.
john
Bonnie, what would you have me rule if I were to rule in your favor?
bonnie
I would think that if Kris has such strong opinions about the decor, or the timing at which they are put up, that he should have to voice those opinions earlier on in the process, rather than after they're already assembled.
john
Kris, do you not express your opinions because you think that they're not valued, or it doesn't matter?
kris
I wouldn't say that it's not valued. I just feel like—like I said, as it's coming at me onesie-twosie, I don't really care that much, because I personally don't have a lot of decoration desires, so... I know before I lived with Bonnie, all my walls were bare. I didn't have any decorations. So I didn't have any desires to decorate. So once I moved in with her, there's decorations everywhere, all the time, which can be a bit of whiplash, when, uh, [laughs] you're going from that bachelor life to cohabitating with, uh, someone else.
bonnie
I would say I've pumpkin spiced up his life.
kris
Oh my god... [Everyone laughs.]
jesse
It truly is ironic that your home before moving in with a Halloween enthusiast was dramatically more spooky. [Jesse, John, and Bonnie laugh quietly.]
john
Yeah. A bare-walled dorm room that Kris inhabited, maybe with one Choices poster on the inside of a closet.
bonnie
Accurate. [Kris laughs.]
jesse
I had a fellow RA in college who lived in a dorm room that was entirely without adornment. Other than some textbooks, it was exclusively those things which had been issued to him by the University of California at Santa Cruz. A closet, a bed, and so forth. And once I asked him, like, "What are you doing in there?" And he just said, "Sit-ups." [Everyone laughs.] He was a nice guy, though!
john
Was he keeping a daily count of his sit-ups, and also his bathroom visits, just like Adam Sax did in his dorm room college?
jesse
[Laughing] Sounds right, yes.
john
Shout-out to my old friend Adam Sax. He went on a very, very strict regimen in college. But anyway, Bonnie, do you think Kris has a style? Does he need some style?
bonnie
I should say that being in a place with lack of decor, at least to the degree that his old apartment was in, [laughing] gives me anxiety. Like, I—
john
[Laughing] Okay.
bonnie
I feel like it's—you're, like, interning yourself somewhere if there's no expression of your personality around you, like, whatsoever, so I feel like there's always a happy medium. And anything that he would be interested in decorating with, I would be on board for. I think the only thing he has on display in our house is his drinkware collection. Beer glasses.
kris
Yeah, you can actually see those on the shelf above the coffee station in that evidence photo.
john
They're from various bars that you've gone to, is that what it is?
kris
Various breweries, various—I think I've got some sports teams on there. Lots of variants in there.
bonnie
That wraps around about half of the kitchen.
kris
Yeah. There's a lot more than you can see on that one shelf.
john
Oh, wow! Well, the difference between a hoarder and a collector is a display shelf, so... [Bonnie and Kris laugh.]
kris
Well...
john
I'm—I'm going to have to give this one to you, as a collection, Kris.
jesse
I would say that what is apparently Kris's Carnage from Spider-Man mug— [Kris laughs] —is perhaps the spookiest thing in this whole house! [Kris and Bonnie laugh.]
kris
I'm glad you caught that one, though.
john
One question before I go. Bonnie, you asked me to rule that Kris give his input when he has input to give, and not wait 'til it's—the deed is done. You made reference to the fact that he—[laughs]. He helped you put in these two small pumpkins. I'm not sure how much help you needed to put a pumpkin on the windowsill, but apparently he helped.
bonnie
Uh, I'm not tall. [Laughing] This was a shelf above the television.
kris
I'm a good bit taller than her.
john
Gotcha, okay. I should've thought. And he—and without complaint. But if in that moment, that you are at the gourd store in the middle of July, and you're like, "Let's get a couple!" [Kris laughs during the above.] And Kris said, "You know what? Uh, I'd rather wait. I'm not ready for these yet. Let's—let's wait. Here is my input. Let's wait a little while before we start putting gourds in our home." [Kris and Bonnie laugh quietly.] Would you indeed be able to accept that answer, you know, honestly?
bonnie
I would be overjoyed if he expressed— [Kris laughs] —that level of an opinion at all when it came to decor, so...
john
Wow, okay!
bonnie
I could find something else to put up there, even if he didn't have a suggestion that wasn't so seasonally inappropriate as he seems to feel. [She and Kris or Jesse laugh.]
john
What would you put up instead of the gourds? A crazy model of a black cat?
bonnie
I don't know, perhaps more skulls. [Laughs.]
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John: His own? Kris: Just buy another skull.
kris
A third skull for the skull wall.
john
There's always skulls. I think I've heard everything I need to in order to make my decision. I am going to go into the storeroom here in my chambers, where I store all of the many thousands of unsold sexy Judge John Hodgman costumes that I tried to bring to market last Halloween. [Scattered, muffled laughter.] I'll be back in a moment with my verdict.
jesse
Please rise as Judge John Hodgman exits the courtroom.
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jesse
Bonnie, in your home, next to your keys, there's a figurine of—well, it's a pumpkin man with a bowtie, what looks like cuffed blue jeans, and loafers. Is this... some kind of pumpkin Dave Shumka from Stop Podcasting Yourself? [Slightly distant laughter from John.]
bonnie
[Laughs.] I describe him as the dapper jack-o'-lantern.
jesse
[Laughing extensively] How are you feeling about your chances in the case, Bonnie?
bonnie
I feel like there's probably a reasonable middle ground here that would probably satisfy us both. I'm thinking that John will probably lean that way.
jesse
How are you feeling about the impending flood of memes on Twitter and Instagram with the hashtag #CozyGoth?
bonnie
I'm—I could not be more excited. [Laughs.] To finally be recognized.
jesse
Kris, how are you feeling?
kris
I'm feeling better than I did at the beginning, when you guys were talking about how much you loved her decorations. I was nervous that you were going to let her keep up all her cozy goth decorations—well, those will stay up—all her, uh, [laughing lightly] kitschy Halloween decorations year-round. I'm feeling a little bit better now. It sounds like kind of what Bonnie was saying. We may have worked towards a middle ground here that, uh, we'll both be satisfied with.
jesse
One that reflects her love of contemporary Halloween kitsch and your love of... [stifling laughter] I guess craft beers or something? [Kris and Bonnie laugh.]
kris
Pretty much.
jesse
We'll see what Judge Hodgman has to say about all this when we come back in just a second.
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jesse
Please rise as Judge John Hodgman re-enters the courtroom and presents his verdict.
john
You know, a lot of times with these disputes over how to decorate and how to share a home, especially among couples who have just moved in together for the first time, the crux of the case tends to be the discomfort of having to say "I don't like a thing" to another person. And the natural friction that occurs as people try to meld two different lives, styles, ways of doing things, and really start to see each other for the first time in a way that they didn't have to when they lived separately. I worry, and often these cruxes have to do with power and self-assertion. And this is not one of those situations. I think that Kris and Bonnie are extremely well-suited to live together. For one, there are no surprises. They have seen each other. You can't not know who Bonnie is, because she's showing it to you on her double-shelf shrine of skulls and crystals. [Kris and Bonnie laugh quietly.]
john
Because she's cozy goth for life. [More laughter.] And Kris loves her for that. And there is no real concern about assertion of one's own personal style here, because—in this case, Bonnie has one and Kris doesn't. [They laugh, then so does John.] Kris's expression, at least in terms of decoration, is to collect pint glasses from various craft breweries. And he has a big, big display of them, and Bonnie has seen that, and they are displayed nicely in the home, and she does not object to that even though, if I were living with you, Kris, I would object to it. [They laugh.] [Stifling laughter] That's why we're not living together, Kris. That's the one reason. [Kris laughs.]
john
That's why you and Bonnie are living together, and I think living together very successfully, obviously for two years and now you have this new home. None of this is the anxiety, I think, of, you know, "How do I assert myself in this new environment? How do I make sure that I maintain some autonomy in this home and feel like it's my own?" I don't feel any of that anxiety here. You both like what you like, and you accommodate each other in what seems to be a very healthy way. So good job. [Someone laughs quietly.] With the exception of, perhaps Kris, your over-accommodation. Insofar as: I think Bonnie is really asking you if you have an opinion about something, that you say so!
john
Because it is very supportive—take it from me, once you've lived in this house for a long time, you're gonna have all kinds of junk, and that basement's gonna be full of all kinds of things, and you're gonna make changes and adjustments and decorative changes, and they're not always gonna go smoothly. And sometimes you are just gonna have to roll over and just say, "I don't like that, but I can tell you really do, so I'm just gonna live with it and that's fine." That's an active choice to surrender to another person's decorative impulse. It's healthy, so long as it goes both ways and there is open conversation. But this sort of passive-aggressive thing of like, "I put a gourd on a shelf. No problem, honey. I'm supporting you." [Kris laughs.]
john
And then five weeks later going like, "What the hell? It's August. Get that gourd off the shelf." [Kris and Bonnie laugh.] That's actually not supportive or healthy for either of you. You need to be able to say, "This gourd feels wrong." And that's not easy! Knowing how you feel in the moment is not always an easy thing to do. It would behoove you, Kris, I think, to take Bonnie's request seriously that you tune in to what it is you like and you don't like, and respectfully say, "I would rather not. It's not gourd time yet for me." [They snicker.] "I don't want to wish my time on this Earth away so that I can speed directly into spooky near death, right near Halloween."
john
That said—Bonnie? I'm going to leave my own opinions about your decorations out of this. I'm gonna say them. [Bonnie and Kris laugh.] I find a lot of your cutesy Halloween stuff not to my taste. To balance that, I will say—cozy goth? Love. [More quiet laughter.] Love the skulls. Love the crystals. Love the kerosene pot. Love the curse-your-father spooky picture. [Kris laughs, John stifles laughter.] Love that self-expression, love that you showed that to Kris, your partner, and everyone who comes in. And I think it's tasteful, too. I think it looks pretty good.
john
You know, I'm not putting a cow skull in my house, but I can't say that that looks bad. It's only when all those jack-o'-lantern throw pillows get in there that I start having a panic attack, 'cause I'd be like— [Bonnie and Kris laugh] —I live in New York. I wouldn't even know where to keep those things. [They laugh again.] But even though that's not to my taste, set it aside; that's not the point. I believe Kris when he says it's not the content of the decorations so much as it is the timing. And I have to say... that I think Kris's request—the generic fall decorations start in September, and Halloween waits 'til October—is perfectly reasonable and exactly how it should be. I'm sorry, Bonnie. I'm calling it for Kris on this one.
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Kris: [Whispering] Yes! John: Generic fall starts in September.
john
Halloween starts in October. The Halloween candy bowl has to be out year-round. [Kris laughs.] Absolutely, I think that's the greatest thing I've ever heard of. [Bonnie laughs.] You can restock that all the time. Let that be the eternal flame that keeps your love of Halloween and Autumn and death going all the time. [Kris and Bonnie laugh.] You gotta find a way to enjoy the time that you actually have, and not wish it away with gourds. [Kris laughs.] If I walked into a house that was full of gourds in the middle of August, I'd be like, "I'm walking out. No." [They both laugh again.]
john
That's truly spooky. And I will make one other order, and Bonnie, you may do with this as you like. You need to take a lot of pictures of Kris, and have them put onto a lot of throw pillows. [Kris and John laugh.] And I'm sure there's services to do this. And get a lot of—a lot of models of Kris, and a lot of, like, statuettes of Kris, and when it's Kris's birthday, I just want you to Kris out the whole place. [Laughs.] [Kris and Bonnie laugh.] As many blankies and throw pillows with Kris's face on it as possible. [Kris is cracking up.]
john
And that—every birthday, he'll be like, "Wow, it's me all over the place!" [Kris laughs.] And then you can decorate to your heart's desire, and also show Kris that you care about him. At least as much as you do about an arbitrary Pagan holiday. This is the sound of a gavel.
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john
Judge John Hodgman rules; that is all.
jesse
Please rise as Judge John Hodgman exits the courtroom.
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jesse
Bonnie, your hyper-long and hyper-adorable Halloween is over. How do you feel?
bonnie
I am okay accepting it based on the sole concession of the year-round Halloween candy bowl. [Laughs.] [Jesse laughs.] That way I have something to look forward to, even though I now have to truncate my active Halloween decorating period. [Laughs.]
jesse
I guess my main concern with a year-round Halloween bowl is that even if you keep refilling it, eventually it'll just be totally full of unwanted Almond Joys. [Kris laughs.]
bonnie
That does happen. [Laughs.]
jesse
Kris, how do you feel?
kris
I'm feeling pretty good, too. I get to keep the holidays where they belong, the seasons where they belong, and now I get an extra special birthday.
bonnie
That remains to be seen. [John laughs.]
jesse
Are the two of you ready for the onslaught of #CozyGoth deepfakes of Glenn Danzig enjoying a mug of hot cocoa and Elvira, Mistress of the Dark, warming her tootsies in front of the fire? [Kris laughs during the above.]
bonnie
I personally cannot wait. [Laughs.]
kris
I'm gonna start using that hashtag, too, I think.
jesse
[Laughs.] Thank you both for joining us on Judge John Hodgman.
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jesse
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jesse
Christopher says: "My friend calls streaming services TV. I think without scheduling, it's not TV. Should we all call streaming services TV now?"
john
You know, there's a very fun and interesting chapter of my forthcoming book—Medallion Status by me, John Hodgman—that talks about the confusion and fracturing of the culture now that there is more television than could ever be watched in one's lifetime because of all the screens and pads and tablets and seat backs that we have. And that was just a plug for my book, Medallion Status. [Mumbling quickly] Bit.ly/MEDALLIONSTATUS, always be plugging. [Laughs quietly.] But at no point did I ever think to myself, "We really should come up with a different term for streaming content to differentiate it from TV, because it lacks a schedule."
john
And I've never thought about that because I have a healthy brain. Christopher, relax. [Laughs quietly.] It's TV! We live in a time when not only is there no television anymore as we used to understand it when we were kids, but at the same time, there is only television. And it is all around us all the time. And it is all something that you see and is brought to your eyes by a service. Tele-vision. TV. Sorry, Christopher. You're wrong.
jesse
That's about it for this week's episode. Submit your cases at MaximumFun.org/jjho, or email hodgman@maximumfun.org. No case is too small! We'll see you next time on the Judge John Hodgman podcast.
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