Episode 317: You Weren’t Listening! Plus, Adoption Representation with Nefertiti Austin

Episode notes

Biz and Theresa wonder, if a parent talks in the kitchen, does anybody hear them? We realize that no matter how much we burn energy telling our kids important information about the day’s schedule or expectations, our kids aren’t listening. “You didn’t tell me!” and “I didn’t hear you!” abound! Plus, Biz is back and bored, Theresa gets impulsive and we welcome back Nefertiti Austin to talk about her new memoir Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting In America.

Follow Nefertiti on Twitter @NefertitiAustin. Get your copy of her book Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender and Parenting In America wherever books are sold.

Some book recommendations from Nefertiti:

Adoption Story Written by a Black Person for Children:

Heart Picked: Elizabeth’s Adoption Tale by Sara Crutcher 2016

Black Mom Narratives:

Rise Up Singing: Black Women Writers on Motherhood Edited by Cecelie Berry 2004

Black Motherhood(s): Contexts, Contours and Considerations Edited by Karen T. Craddock 2015

Child, Please: How Mama’s Old-School Lessons Helped Me Check Myself Before I Wrecked Myself by Ylonda Gault 2015

Postcards from Cookie: A Memoir of Motherhood, Miracles, and a Whole Lot of Mail by Caroline Clarke 2015

Becoming by Michelle Obama 2018

Guidebook to Relative Strangers: Journeys into Race, Motherhood, and History by Camille T. Dungy 2018

Mothering While Black: Boundaries and Burdens of Middle-Class Parenthood by Dawn Marie Dow 2019

Baby Love: Choosing Motherhood After a Lifetime of Ambivalence by Rebecca Walker
2008

Who’s Your Mama?: The Unsung Voices of Women and Mothers Edited by Yvonne Bynoe 2009

Breathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani Perry

We Live for the We: The Political Power of Black Motherhood by Dani McClain

Check out Theresa’s new book! It Feels Good To Be Yourself is available now wherever books are sold.

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Show Music

Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com)

Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions

Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens

Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions

Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans

Mental Health Resources:

Therapy for Black Girls – Therapyforblackgirls.com

Dr. Jessica Clemmens – https://www.askdrjess.com

BLH Foundation – borislhensonfoundation.org

The Postpartum Support International Warmline – 1-800-944-4773 (1-800-944-4PPD)

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline – 1-800-662-4357 (1-800-662-HELP)

Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call or chat. They are here to help anyone in crisis. Dial 988 for https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org and there is a chat option on the website.

Crisis Text Line: Text from anywhere in the USA (also Canada and the UK) to text with a trained counselor. A real human being.

USA text 741741

Canada text 686868

UK text 85258

Website: https://www.crisistextline.org

National Sexual Assault: Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.

https://www.rainn.org

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 

https://www.thehotline.org/help/

Our advocates are available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in more than 200 languages. All calls are free and confidential.

They suggest that if you are a victim and cannot seek help, ask a friend or family member to call for you.

Teletherapy Search: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling